Awareness Via Judgment
by Mystic Life

One way to gain a better understanding of our deepest conflicts is to examine who and what we judge.  If we judge another person it is likely that we are judging some aspect of who we are.  Judgment on its own is separating, but if we examine our judgments we can become more conscious of our issues.

For example, if we judge people who have no money as "trash" we might actually be uncomfortable with our own financial past or present, and looking for someone else to be "better than."  Additionally, if we judge emotional songs as "stupid" or "silly" then it may be that we are denying the vulnerable emotions which these songs address.

It is useful to make a list of all the people you have been telling yourself you don't like then specify exactly what it is that you judge about that person.  Try to examine if there are repressed aspects of your personality that relate to these traits you don't like.  For example, if you have written down that you don't like your Uncle Joe because he is a control freak, examine your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors in relation to control.  Do you feel out of control?  Do you secretly try to control situations?  This is an example of how your judgments can arise from a place of inner conflict.

This work (and its second half which is not included here)
appears in Spiritual Polyamory by Mystic Life.

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